I had a long battle with liquor, and I am happy to say I am winning.
When I was younger I was a huge partier. Through high school, college, and a bit after college I partied about 3 nights a week. And when I drank liquor, I became someone I wasn’t proud of.
I tried to remove liquor from my life at least a dozen times, and it was the same story each time.
I’d cut it out for weeks, feel really good about myself. Then one night a friend would offer a shot or a mixed drink and I’d say to myself, “Well I’ve been awesome for weeks, one drink isn’t going to hurt.”
One drink became two, then three.
Whoops, back to the bottom of the hill. Time to climb again.
Even when I could contain myself and have only one. I’d get cocky and think I could maintain that. Inevitably I’d slip back and get out of control one night.
This routine happened for, I’m not kidding, 8 years.
One day, after a really bad and embarrassing night, I decided to cut liquor out again (for maybe the 20th time?).
A close friend of mine came over to go out the next night; what she said to me would change my life forever.
While pouring drinks for the five us, she asked me, “So Christian, what phase are you in this week?”
I asked, “What do you mean what phase?”
She replied, “ Are you drinking liquor this week? Are you not drinking at all? I can’t keep up with all of your phases.”
That statement punched me in the face.
This friend knew me very well. More than anyone else. She saw me so clearly.
She was right. And I was ashamed. I was ashamed to be the person she was accurately describing.
That was one of my defining moments.
It’s now been over 3 years since I’ve had a sip of liquor, and I couldn’t be happier.
These three years have been the best 3 years of my entire life. Not drinking liquor has given me new clarity. Clear on what is actually important, the family I’m building, the business I’m building, and the vision of what I see the future can be for this world.
Now some people may read this article and think that it’s not for them and they don’t have a problem so they’ll never stop and that’s totally fine. As anybody knows me I’m not hard on stopping drinking completely.
But I know others who have had the same fight I had; that when they drank they didn’t care about anything else but drinking and it was a vicious cycle of guilt and drinking.
If you are in this position, and it doesn’t have to be just liquor or alcohol, the easiest thing you can do is just stop. Stop digging the hole. Stop kicking the can.
And if you’re struggling with that, I know you can do it and when you do do it it can significantly change your life.
How can you stop this habit?
There are 3 steps you can take:
- Make a commitment – truly commit to yourself for a specific period of time. Maybe that’s 90 days, maybe that is a year. Whatever you do, pick a time and commit to it.
- Create a habit builder calendar (Learn more and get a free template here)
- Get an accountability buddy. Have someone who will do regular check-ins with you and keep you to this commitment
These 3 steps alone can help you break or add habits.
If you want to change, you can absolutely change. You have the power to change your actions, to change your habits. You just need to follow the system and commit.
Here’s to many more years of living your best life!
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